Today, I find myself slightly discouraged and contemplating the question “Where did I go wrong?”
Don’t be alarmed. I’m not going to need drugs or therapy over it, but I am curious to hear your thoughts on this.
I learned recently of a situation in which I was evidently wrong in my attitude toward someone, they became offended, and I didn’t even know of it.
Now that I have found out about it, a few things are running through my head and heart about how I am dealing with it.
I’ll be transparent and share some of them with you.
First, my flesh says “Why didn’t this person tell me this before now?” or “Why did they not tell me this when it happened?”
Then, I hear my mind saying “They were just looking for something to get mad about!” or “They just don’t know how to handle things like an adult!”
Then, I realize that my “self-preservation” mechanism has kicked in and I’m just allowing pride to raise its ugly head in me.
I know how to handle this with the person (of course, go to them and make it right), but how do I deal with the feelings it causes inside me?
How do you handle these feelings? How do you navigate through areas of conflict? How do deal with yourself in areas of pride and offense?
“Father, help me today to be real. Help me to be quick to repent and forgive. Help me to be open to being wrong.”
Please leave your comments…
jim mcnatt says
my brother, you are a man who has always worried about others first in your life. you have always been a man of god ever since i`ve known you, you know what to do, ask god to show you, how and what to do, don`t let satan, put any doubts in your head, about the man you are, and surely you know that you have a strong loving wife who can pray with you, and i will also pray for god to shed light on this for you, to ease your heart, you are one of a handful of people that i would turn to, and trust with wisdom, take a breathe, relax, you are a true man of god, i`m sure you didn`t mean to hurt anyone`s feelings. so my friend,just do what you have always and i mean always have told me to do, put it in gods hands, he will show you the light you seek, ask this person to forgive you, and know its over, and know in your heart , god will show you what you need to know , and how to handle this in the future….. i will pray for you joey, anytime for anything, you are not just a great friend, yopu are a great brother in christ…..we all love you, and will be here for you anytime..hope this helps some…i don`t have the words or wisdom you always had or have for me, i just felt like god is typing this message for me….i love you my brother….. your friend..jim
Joey Hughes says
Thanks for the response Jim!!! Hope you are well!!!